Different things also bother me- when some salaryman pretends to snooze in the handicapped seats while Akari and I sway with the train right in front of him. When morons makes anti-breastfeeding comments. When well meaning folks
I know part of it is because I never used to have any opinions about stuff like that. But it seems I've developed all these notions from having been a parent for all of 3 months. hehe
I went to a party at my buddy's house a couple weeks ago. Him and his girlfriend are expecting in November, and they live in a 2LDK (smallish) apartment. Almost the first thing I noticed was that they don't have room in their bedroom for a crib, which I remarked about. To which he replied, "Oh, we're going to make the TV room the baby's room. If we sleep with the baby in our room, it's going to learn to be dependent."
o.O
Honestly, I don't know any independent infants. I don't even know any independent toddlers. Human children rely on their parents for longer than any other species, but they do grow out of it. I don't know how sleeping together for the first few years of its life, when night waking naturally occurs, will make this worse. In fact, sleeping separately is less convenient.
His girlfriend is Japanese and has expressed doubts about the idea of the baby sleeping separately: co-sleeping is the cultural norm. But he's sort of steam rolling over her even she's the one who's going to have to trek over to the baby's room instead of just sitting up, reaching over to the crib, nursing, and putting baby back down again while both of them are still drowsy. She also won't be able to hear the baby until it's wide awake and crying, and then it's a lot harder for both of them to get back to sleep. And she has to go back to work 6 weeks postpartum.
I hope she changes his mind so that she can get a bit more rest. My husband doesn't even wake up during Akari's night feedings, because she doesn't have to cry in order to signal that she's hungry- I can hear her stirring and nurse her before she gets to that point, so he gets a full night's sleep. And the sex part (which is what I'm betting my friend is more concerned about)- well, we have the rest of the house or we can capitalize on the afternoon naps she's starting to take. No, it's not as convenient- but since when was life with kids CONVENIENT? What I realize more and more is just how much responsibility it is- can't go to the doctor or even the toilet without thinking of her first. And it'll be like this for years! The more I think about it, the more I think how carefree and selfish I was before becoming a parent. In fact, I really didn't consider the whole scope of it until we'd already had her.
My sister had a baby 2 days ago. Wonder if I should share this sobering realization.
Oooh, and naptime's over.
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My husband is actually very traditional. I know he was proud of my career and the fact that we contributed equally to our family finances, but he's just had the most self-satisfied look the last month or so. I think he really likes knowing that he's providing for us. Or maybe it's just funny watching me waddle around. XD The nice dinners (two dishes and a soup) sweeten the deal too, I suppose. Sexist? Maybe. I think it's sweet, though.
The baby is not used to the dog. She kicks when it starts barking. My ribs do not appreciate.
Cooking with the dog around is very funny. I made tacos, tortillas and bean soup last night and it kept hovering, hoping desperately that I would drop something.
Tortillas are the Mexican version of temaki zushi (Handrolled sushi) according to my in-laws. XD They really loved them!
According to my doctor, my hipbone has started to open up so that the baby can drop. Just a few more weeks now...
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www.jees.or.jp/jlpt/en/index.htm
And because I feel it deserves a mention, here's a link to Obama's Inauguration. There's actually an English textbook in Japan based on his speeches- and it's the current runaway bestseller at amazon and in bookshops. The Democratic Party (perennial losers to the Liberals here) has apparently been studying it like crazy. However, from reading "The Audacity of Hope," I think it's more than just Obama's oratory skill- his writing is persuasive and eloquent, never pointing fingers or assigning blame. There's a lot to be said for a politician who tries to win his arguments without having to resort to mudslinging.
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It's both cool and weird at the same time.
Thinking back to when I was first writing Aftermath, with the idea burning in my head amidst the frenzy of wedding preparations, I feel incredibly gratified that the story has come this far. It was just a little Cloud/Tifa fic. They sooo needed a break from what canon was tossing them. And I had a few ideas for other chapters. So in Oct/Nov last year, I sketched out a rough plan- it looks like this:
( The rest under here... )
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Halloween party and Festival posts coming soon!
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cynical
Well, this is the first time I'm attempting something like this. But I saw this in the LJ of someone in a bento community and since there are some voracious readers on my f-list, I'm hoping the results will be interesting.
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nerdy
Anyway, all the debate on the Genesis Awards forum about the coming American election has been making me think an awful lot about politics. It's just so much more interesting than Canadian politics. (Who really cares that Canadians are also holding an election besides Canadians?)
The writing of August's chapter is coming along and I'm nearing the finish line now. Might have bit off more than I could chew (in a month, anyway) with this chapter, but I'm still in love with the idea- especially now that it's really coming together.
Actually, someone on GA mentioned how high-and-mighty authors who construct their writing around themes are. Being somebody who has consciously worked themes into my writing, it sort of made me raise an eyebrow to be told it was annoying and pretentious. If words were really just words, why do some books move me to tears? Or inspire such admiration? I like finding the deeper meaning and symbology. Call me an intellectual snob, but I think it's cool when there is more than one layer of meaning to a story. And I don't think it takes away my appreciation of stories that are just stories, either.
Finishing off with a couple of quotes from Quotationspage.com:
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I've had some family visiting from Hong Kong for the past few days. I think family reunions always cause mixed feelings, and this visit made me think a lot about how I identify myself. Maybe I really am becoming more Japanese than Chinese. But I don't know if losing my roots is really that bad.
( Ramble on language and random Final Fantasy figurine )- Mood:
worried - Music:the brilliant green- Enemy
My husband is finally on his Obon (Like Ghost month for Chinese, the Japanese believe that the spirits of their ancestors return for a visit during the Obon period. People traditionally go home during this time to honour them, and get about a week off.) holiday, so we went to his parent's house over the weekend. Actually, his sister just got engaged, so we had a BBQ for our first meeting with her fiance. Yes, they'd been dating for years and yet we'd never met him- I don't know why this is such normal procedure in Japan.
Anyway, quite a few people stopped over with their tiny tots in tow, so I just had to take pictures of all the cuteness.(^o^)/
Edit: Pics with people have been f-locked.
Oh, look. Now I've got a fanhistory page too. I was actually hoping nobody would notice- having something out there ANYBODY can edit is a little scary. But I suppose what's done is done.
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nervous
You know, I'm usually backpacking somewhere during the summer months. Number one teacher perk is the long summer holiday, and I've always tried to make the most of it. But this year I blew my travel budget on LASIK. And I've realized that having no place to travel through during the summer has turned me into a lazy slug. All I've accomplished is:
-Thoroughly cleaning most of the apartment
-PRing a few fics for GA. Some were awful, which makes me glad we have this PR system. How can people nominate fics that ignore grammar, punctuation and spelling? (Not to mention plot.) But some were amazingly good fics that I never would have clicked on otherwise. So I'm glad that I'm being forced to read these, although the badfics make me wrinkle my nose at my laptop.
-Reading a bunch of books (I go into more depth about these under the cut.)
-Writing a few more sections of August's chapter. I'm experimenting again, which may or may not be a good idea. But the plan looks good right now and I love writing to fit stuff into a puzzle. Still, I've been mostly ignoring my laptop because...
Replaying FFVII has consumed my life.
Hello. My name is NRG and I am a game-aholic. Never mind that some of this actually counts as research for my fic. I've been steaming through the game at a crazy pace because I have no real responsibilities. (wheatear, I'm in front of Rocket Town now. You are never going to catch up. ;P)
I've just put down the controller though. Need to take a break. Seriously, I feel like I'm back at Uni again, spending all my free time on a game. Obsessed, much? Time to go grocery shopping, NRG. Clean the air-conditioner filters. Plan another trip. And write some more before I miss my self-imposed deadline, hehe.
Hope the rest of you are enjoying the summer. I know I intend to enjoy every minute, lazy or not! (^_^)v
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grateful
In the slums now, enjoying all the extra bits of conversation that just aren't in the game script. See, I knew Tifa was a good cook, but I couldn't remember why- until talking with Wedge in 7th Heaven.
You know, we were just in Bic Camera on Sunday checking out the PS3 demo for FFXIII. And the graphics are just unbelievably gorgeous in comparison to this game. But I still had such a big grin on my face as that initial FMV played. Aeris sure had big bangs a la 80s!
OK, back to the game. Husband will be back home early for once this week (Yay!) so I have to fit in quality playing time while I can. ;)
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mischievous
I wasn't overly enthusiastic when my husband first told me about yesterday's matsuri (festival). I adore matsuri, but going to one on a weeknight just seemed really odd. Luckily, nobody really cares if I'm slightly hungover at work because I'm really just here to warm my seat at my desk until the end of the week. And who am I to turn down free beer? So I headed over anyway, and it was a nice time, sitting on a plastic tarp drinking and eating with the other defense force families. Just wish I had put on my own yukata. Seeing all the women in them just makes me think of so many butterflies.
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impressed
But why are artificially flavoured and coloured icy treats so interesting? Check under the cut for my pictures- and if you think the EXACT SAME THING, you will probably LOL, like I did. ;P
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naughty
Some of you may know that I got LASIK surgery on Saturday. And I am happy to report that as of my next day post-op check-up, my vision has already gone from 0.06 to 1.5! My next check-up will be on Friday, and the doctor expected my eyesight to improve even more by then. From someone who has worn glasses since the 3rd grade, it is a really nice feeling to see so clearly without effort. The slight pain, cost (400000 yen, or about $4000) and anxiety are really worth it, in my opinion.
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ecstatic
Wow. Now that I've had a LJ for a whole week, I've discovered just how great it is to change your icon for your post. And of course, I've run around like a kid at Halloween snagging icons like crazy- credit is given in the icon comment box, but there are two that I made and two that I just stole, hehe.
You can probably tell which two I made by taking a look in my scrapbook: I basically just shrunk a couple of pics and then cut square chunks out of them using paint. One of the stolen ones was also stolen by a person in GA, so if you really own the bragging rights to my nitpicky icon, please allow me to buy you a virtual drink and officially acknowledge your genius. Same goes if you were the one who made the Cloud snowboarding one from the original game.
Of course, all this media obsession is taking time away from my fic, but don't worry, it's still shaping up! Actually, it's taken off in a really cool, but potentially obscure direction. Any of you know about the FFVII/ FFX connection? I may actually nip this bit in the bud, but I may pick it up elsewhere- I had some ideas for a Reeve/Rufus fic awile back, and this may fit in there a lot more smoothly.
I also had the most awesome idea for a Tseng/Elena fic today! And here I thought I was going to be finished with this fandom once all my Cloti stuff was finished. *sighs* It's probably because I watched AC (AGAIN) to try to get my characterization/ story focus right. And inspiration struck... Can't wait to get back on my laptop tonight! (^ ^)v
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creative
Today isn't a holiday in Japan or anything, it's just for my school. Our president is rather...eccentric. And today is his birthday. So naturally, it becomes a holiday, similar to the way the Emperor's birthday is a National holiday (Dec. 23rd, btw).
Not that I mind, though. ;)
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relaxed
Anyway, live-journal seems more community like than ffnet so far. I'll be wandering into different pages and exploring a lot for the next little while, I suppose. Once I get interested in something new, I always obsess over it a bit.
Feel free to browse through my fics and comment. I always like talking about writing, FF7 and Cloti. :)
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